Yep, that’s right. I just read a book that I’ve heard about for a long time; it’s called The 5 Love Languages. Have you heard of it? Basically, it’s a book about how we all feel loved differently. I already knew that my love language was physical touch (anyone want to hug??) but I read this book and it made me realize how much relationships can be enhanced when you’re speaking/doing things that makes the other person feel loved! It also helped me realize that really good conversation (aka Quality Time) is more important to me than I thought! I thrive on good conversations, deep conversations with people – about life and God and family and the world. It makes me feel so connected. I don’t need to agree with you; I just need to know your opinion and for you to know mine. To truly be known, to expose my heart and to understand yours — it makes me feel alive. Either that, or you can give me a hug or nudge me with your elbow. High fives are also acceptable.
As great as it is, there’s been a downside or two… I’ve gotten a little obnoxious about it. I’ve asked everyone I know, “What’s your love language? ..yeah, I see that!” And I’ve also pulled the “hey, my love language just changed to Acts of Service…can you get me some water so I’ll feel loved?” Ahem. Is that wrong?
Anyways, the book was really good and I encourage you to take a look; I read the whole thing in a day, so it’s a short read and you might learn something about yourself or your spouse! In a culture that sees many relationships struggle after being so in love, the book is a great reminder that love is a choice!
So, the big question for the day is – what’s your love language??